“If you don’t love yourself, you can’t love anybody else...
And I think as women we really forget that”Wow. Jennifer Lopez really knows her stuff on this.
The Bible says it like this, “love your neighbour as you love yourself” (Mark 12:31).
I was brought up to that tune.
Treating everyone else really, really well.
I was loving my neighbour.
But, I was not loving me.
Part of that upbringing and biblical teaching tells us that if we focus on us. You focusing on you. Me focusing on me. Well, then we’re being selfish. Egotistical.
Wait. Hold on a minute.
What you’re telling me to do … you’re also telling me I can’t do.
Major contradiction.
So true.
But we don’t think about it. We just go along. With what society tells us. With what our family tells us. With what our peers tell us. Keeping the peace. Keeping everyone happy. Conforming.
Truth is we’re being set up to fail.
Taught we can’t do what we’re supposed to do.
There’s no way we can succeed.
We’re taught to do something and then told not to do it.
What I know, now, is that until we love and accept ourself nothing else works. Nothing.
Without self-love, self-care becomes yet another tick box in an overly busy life.
Without self-love no amount of self-care will fill us up.
Until we’re full of self-love we’ll be constantly giving to others from our fumes.
When we’re full of self-love we’re able to give from our overflow.
Then we’re truly able to love others.
Then we’re truly able to serve and support them as we feel called to.
What’s the current shape of your self-love?
What are the character traits of your self-love personality?
Use this self-discovery quiz so you can discover the current shape of your self-love and how to care for yourself so that you are truly able to love yourself and others.
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Daphne Wells, founder of Passion for Growth, guides you to grow your business to full bloom while creating a lifestyle you love so you can make a difference and make money. For over 6 years she has represented highly-motivated, courageous and successful women in business, small business owners, coaches, therapists and entrepreneurs. As an ICF credentialed coach, with a history of birthing and growing small businesses, Daphne has a deep passion for inspiring you to recognise and appreciate your magnificence whilst you grow your fabulously successful business. Her true magic lies in empowering you to do it your way. She lives in the beautiful South Island of New Zealand from where she works with women business owners and entrepreneurs worldwide. She’s President of ICF NZ Southern. Take her FREE quiz ‘Discover the current shape of your self-love’ at www.DaphneWells.com
