Many years ago when I was in my marriage, I was advised “I needed a counsellor”, “we needed a counsellor”, and then everything would miraculously turn out OK.

I lost count of how many I went to. I have no idea how much it cost.

I only know that it didn’t help. But I didn’t know why it didn’t help.

I was so used to believing it was all my fault. Just cos. Just cos that’s what I’d always been told.

So I accepted that. And I thought I could be a counsellor and find a better way through counselling to help women in similar situations to me.

The further I went with my studies to become a counsellor, the more I realised it would never work. It could never work. For me anyways. And I guessed for others too.

Certainly I knew enough to know that if I didn’t believe it could work then there was absolutely no point in continuing studying to be a counsellor.

It was just too negative for me. It felt too dark.

It didn’t offer solutions that I could work towards. It didn’t offer me anything that I felt would progress me on my journey to where I wanted to go and how I wanted to live my life.

The sad part about giving up on studying to be a counsellor for me was that deep down inside I knew I was born to be a leader.

I knew I was born to help women and children.

I knew I was born to help women create the lives they dreamed of for them and their children.

I knew I was born for more.

I just didn’t know the how at that stage of my journey.

But I never let go of my dream. I knew I’d find a way.

A few years down the track I met up with a life coach and she literally changed my life.

I realised without a shadow of doubt that coaching was the way forward for me to help women. So I set about studying to be a coach.

That was quite a few years ago now. Now I’m an ICF credentialed coach living my dream helping women. And I’m loving it.

Why am I sharing this story with you?

There’s several lessons in it that apply to more than just me.

1. Never, never, never let go of your dream. If you know you’re born for something then it’s your duty and life’s purpose to go for it. I believe that we’re never given a dream for nothing.

2. Whatever crap you’ve gone through in your life. Whatever lessons you’ve learned. I believe you’ve gone through it and learned those lessons for a reason. They’ve moulded and shaped you into the person you are today. They’re an integral part of your life purpose.

3. You don’t need to know the how. It’s the why that’s important. Just keep taking baby steps and you’ll keep making progress towards fulfilling your life purpose and your dream.

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