In truth, I’d have thought you had a whole lot more than one screw loose!
I’d probably have thought you were absolutely bananas, downright loopy or batshit crazy!
Whilst it seemed crazy at the time, I now see this as a pivotal, life-changing moment in my life. One that gave me the strength, courage and resilience to be who I was born as rather than who the world told me to be. One that empowered me to serve and support others in the way I was destined to rather than doing what society told me to do.
10 years ago, if you’d have told me that today I’d be helping people make major life decisions that give them back the power in their life, enable them to make more money in record time and live the lifestyle they choose for their family I would’ve thought you had more than a screw loose!
I’d probably have completely dismissed it as a possibility.
Or wondered who you were talking about since it wasn’t me!
Either way I’d not have believed you at all.
Back then I was so well and truly stuck I didn’t believe there was a way out!
At that time in my life, I was trapped, controlled, manipulated and tormented in a toxic abusive relationship.
He controlled what I did and where I was.
Who I spoke to and who my friends were.
He wanted to know everything I did when I wasn’t with him.
The repercussions of not obeying him were so harsh that complying seemed to be my only option.
Until I’d had enough of it.
Until I was sufficiently sick and tired of it all.
Until I was ready to make changes.
Everything changed when I chose to be my own hero.
Of course, that one decision didn’t make everything instantly better or easier.
It was a long road that was often bumpy.
Through my way out I trusted I was on the right path for me.
I trusted there was a light at the end of the tunnel.
I trusted I’d eventually dig my way out of the deep, dark hole I had been trapped in.
As I gathered evidence, I trusted myself more deeply.
Things I’d have done differently …
I learned so much through this process including some things I’d have done differently.
I would have asked for help.
At the time I was so ashamed of where I’d found myself that I didn’t ask for help which made my way out harder and slower than it needed to be.
I wouldn’t have done it alone.
Without support environment always wins. My thinking I had to do it alone made it more difficult and meant I missed out on the added strength that support brings.
Being your own hero does not mean doing it all alone.
You’re a hero not the lone ranger!
Every hero is stronger with support.
Every hero is more courageous with support.
Every hero is more effective with support.
Even the lone ranger realized he didn’t need to do it alone.
Wherever you are in this process, please know that you are here for a purpose.
You were coded at birth to be who you were born as rather than who the world tells you to be.
Your life has a purpose that you are coded for. You are here to share your gifts with the world in a way that’s unique to you and is probably different than what society has conditioned you to believe.
Want to learn how I can help you be your own hero rather than who the world conditioned you to be?
Are you ready to live the life you were born to live rather than doing what society tells you to do?
Send me a private message and we can chat or shoot me an email to daphne@daphnewells.com
